Friday, October 17, 2014
This is post I feel compelled to write, because it's not neat, and nice, and pretty. As I sit here, typing, my kids are on their way to my mother's. She was watching them so that I could do my part-time job of cleaning an office once a week, and she offered to keep them for the night. Which is really a Godsend for all of us, because I think we all needed the break.
Wednesday, October 1, 2014
We were facing some pretty significant problems at the end of the school year last June, not the least of which was one (or more) distracted students, a school day that dragged on well beyond the intended end time (and with no additions to the curriculum), and an overly busy schedule. At the time I chalked it up to it being the end of the year, and the kids and I needing a break. When September rolled around and we started with all of the same problems however, I knew something had to change. I'd love to say that this happened without a major meltdown from me, but it's not true. After my very first (first!) day of school this year I lamented to my husband, "I caaaaan't do this for another year!!!" A couple of days later at a meeting of homeschool Moms I shared the same thoughts. I prayed and cried and prayed some more, and eventually God helped me to see the areas I could improve upon. I share them with you in the event that they may be helpful, knowing of course that every family, like every child, is different.
Tuesday, September 30, 2014
I’ve watched a few great videos about feminism lately, including one by UN Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson and another by Laci Green. They both made powerful points about gender equality and stereotypes, and sought to de-vilify the word feminism in order to move forward with the necessary work that still needs to be done to improve the condition for women around the world. Both were excellent, and you may be wondering what someone like me can add to the conversation? Hasn’t everything already been said?
Thursday, September 25, 2014
We're finishing up our fourth week of school, and this week has been the busiest so far. They won't all be so crazy, but right now I'm enjoying the freedom of being able to pick up and do things a little bit easier than I could this time last year, when I still had a little-ish baby to work around. This week, for the first time since school started, we had something to do every single day. On the average week I try to make sure I only go out two days of the five, and I try as best I can to make sure they aren't in a row. Today we were out on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, today and will be again tomorrow. It's been exciting and exhausting.
Saturday, September 20, 2014
A friend recently asked me if I had any tips for bringing very young children to Mass. Immediately it brought me back to the days when all of my children were little (when my oldest was four, and I had a two-year-old and a baby at the same) and I remembered just how difficult that was. I thought of all the things that kept me going in those years, when Mass was such a trial for me, my children, and anyone sitting around me. I worried that I left more sinful and flustered than when I came. I worried my kids had no clue what a gift the Mass was, and that my lack of patience was not teaching them. I worried we were ruining the Mass for everyone around us. But always, I knew Jesus was there. And for me, that trumped everything. I knew this was good, and that even if I couldn't see it, there were so many graces we were gaining, for us and our children, every time we came here. This is the only place we can bring our children to see Jesus in the flesh. That was the only thing that got us through those difficult years. And so, we persist.
Sunday, September 7, 2014
As the parents of many children, at any one period of time we find we're having one or more issues with one or more children. Sometimes it can be overwhelming (and they're still little - I can only imagine what it will be like when they're bigger!) And sometimes you feel defeated, like you're just not up for the task. This week, God has really helped me to take a look at that and be thankful for the the crushing weight of this burden, and the realization that this is a job that's bigger than I am.
Friday, September 5, 2014
Back in July I wrote about how much I needed summer vacation. And it's true, I did. For a multitude of reasons July ended up being super-busy, and there was no way I could keep up the pace of the many months that preceded it. I always enter the summer with the realization that I need this break, and I always leave it with the realization that I need my routine back.